If we’re being honest with ourselves, most of us love getting a good compliment. There’s nothing that feels quite like someone noticing your new haircut or telling you that your hard work hasn’t gone unnoticed.
But have you ever thought about how giving compliments might actually make you feel better too?
the science bit
This may surprise some readers, but there’s actual science behind this. When you pay someone a genuine compliment, your brain releases feel-good chemicals like dopamine and oxytocin (1). These are the same hormones linked to happiness, connection, and—you guessed it—reduced stress. And since stress and sleep are basically sworn enemies, feeling good during the day can mean better sleep at night.
the domino effect of kindness
Think about the last time someone randomly paid you a compliment. Maybe a friend said, “You’re always so thoughtful,” or a stranger commented on your great taste in music. Chances are, it put a little spring in your step.
When you compliment someone else, you pass that positivity on, and they might do the same for someone else. It’s like a kindness chain reaction. And knowing you’ve made someone’s day? That’s a pretty good feeling.
boosting your own confidence
This might sound odd, but complimenting others can actually make you feel more confident. When you focus on noticing the good in others, it subtly shifts your mindset—you start recognising more good things in yourself too (2). And feeling positive about yourself makes it easier to relax when your head hits the pillow at night.
how to give better compliments
Now, we’re not talking about the overused, “Nice shoes,” (although, if they are nice, go for it). The best compliments are specific and heartfelt. Instead of, “You’re great,” try, “I love how you always know the right thing to say.” Instead of, “Cool jacket,” go with, “That colour really suits you.”
The key to paying a feel-good compliment? Mean it! People can tell when a compliment is genuine, and that’s what makes it powerful.
the feel-good challenge
Here’s a little experiment — give at least three genuine compliments tomorrow and see how it makes you feel. Whether it’s to a colleague, a friend, or even a stranger, notice how their reaction lifts your mood. Who knows? You might just sleep a little better knowing you’ve made the world a tiny bit brighter.
So, go on — spread the good vibes. Your brain (and your sleep schedule) will thank you for it. Until next time, eve sleep.
